Sunday, 21 June 2015

To Facebook or not to Facebook? That is the question!

I have been debating with myself for the past couple of months whether or not to delete my Facebook or not.  I have various excuses why I can't:

  • I have to have Facebook in order to manage my blog page
  • I need it to manage my hubby's business page
  • I need to keep up with my friends
  • What if I miss out on something important?
  • What if I learn something awesome or find something very blessed?
  • What if I am able to share something blessed?

I made a deal with myself when I started on Facebook that I would only use it for positive stuff, to share my faith, share what makes me laugh, or photos I think are beautiful.  Never as an outlet for anger or frustration.  And I have pretty much kept to that.  I avoid controversy and if I disagree with something someone has said, I don't respond or raise a debate on their page.  If I do feel the need to "comment" I try to do so with grace.  If I can't find anything gracious to say, I keep away.

But recently I am finding Facebook a drag!  I find I am just scrolling through and seriously using up a lot of time just "being" on Facebook.  Because of  family hurts I have always been careful about what I say and what I share on Facebook but I find myself backing off as others in the family get more involved on it.  I don't feel free to be me, on Facebook.  It is not being the tool I want it to be for my blog either because I find that I am not focusing on that.  I truly wish I could have the Facebook blog page without "Facebook".  Anyway, my dilemma is that I want to step away from Facebook, but I also don't want to!  

What to do, what to do!  

I believe that Facebook is a great tool to use to spread the gospel, I believe its a great tool to communicate and connect.  I choose my Facebook friends wisely so those on my page tend to be like minded.  But I find myself stuck in a groove that is not uplifting, or positive.  I find that I am not gaining anything from being there.  I am allowing Facebook to steal my time and my joy and it is sometimes a cause for contention.

I have considered what I would be losing without Facebook, and other than those few specials that I connect with, my blog page would be lost.  I can connect with my specials outside of Facebook, even those far away.  But my blog, and sharing it, is important to me too.  

What to do?  What to do?

I will be praying about this.  I will be considering options.  I will take and listen to advice!  Ultimately I will do what I feel the Lord wants me to do.  I wish He would be more direct but I have a feeling the Lord wants me to "MANAGE" Facebook in such a way that the impact is positive and not negative.  That means discipline!  Sigh!  Its easy to be disciplined in things that don't impact you but those things that do, quiet times, food, friends, time, social media, all these things require thought and discipline and decisiveness.

As one blogger friend of mine said, her audience for her blog is who the Lord wishes for it to be, and so with regards to numbers of likes, comments, shares, etc, I am not overly concerned.  It is my heart's desire that the one person who needs to read something written here, gets to read it, through whichever medium.  I do not want to lose sight of the fact that God comes first no matter what.  

So, your advice, comments and thoughts are welcome.  I would like to take it all into consideration and prayerfully make a decision.   

Psalm 63 v 1 - 5:  O God, You are my God, earnestly will I seek You; my inner self thirst for You, my flesh longs and is faint for you, in a dry and weary land where no water is.  (2) So I have looked upon You in the sanctuary to see your power and your glory.  (3) Because Your loving-kindness is better than life, my lips shall praise You.  (4) So will I bless You while I live;  I will lift up my hands in Your name.  (5) My whole being shall be satisfied as with marrow and fatness; and my mouth shall praise You with joyful lips.  

I don't know why "these" verses but as I type them I get a sense that the Lord wants me to be satisfied in only Him.  Maybe half my problem is I leave Facebook with discontent or unhappiness and maybe that is because I am seeking some sort of satisfaction there that I am not getting.  And my satisfaction should be in God and ONLY Him.  He IS my source, He IS my life, He IS the reason I exist.  

So, some thought is required for my future on Facebook.  Watch this space for the results.  Until then, all remains the same.

I look forward to hearing from you

God bless

#wisdom What is the Lord teaching me here about wisdom?

I believe the Lord is bringing me to a place where I am willing to give social media up for Him.  That I will be content with my blog alone and those one or two who respond there as its about Him and not about me, and how many likes, comments, and shares I have.  I think He is asking me to choose, and in the choosing He will bless.  I know this to be true.  


  1. Hi Tracy! I like the positive aspects of Facebook. However, I, too, don't like the time-wasting part of it. I've noticed that lately, I a spending less time simply scrolling and scrolling and more time in Facebook "groups" that I belong to. Those seem to be more productive. (The groups are Bible study groups, etc.) As for what I post, I always try to be positive and post nice and encouraging things on my page. I'm sure you've noticed all my animal and scenery pics from around my home lately, as well as (I admit) silly things about my cat. I know that's not important, really, but it makes me smile. Hopefully it makes someone else smile, too. I do organize my newsfeed into different lists so I can avoid the clutter. If I want to check out what my family is posting, I click on my "family" list. If I want to see what my blogger friends are doing, I click on my "blogger" list, etc. That way, I'm not inundated with posts that overwhelm me.

    Anyway, all that to say, it is a dilemma. For me, it has been a huge way to connect and during some difficult times, it has helped me not to feel so cut off from the world. But now, I am being careful not to let it consume me.

    Blessings, Joan

    1. P.S. Note: I found your blog post this morning through my Facebook feed! ;)

  2. Tracy, you often make me smile and other times make me think. I am thankful for your presence on FB. I have many people where FB is my only connection with them - I have friends who left without warning and I can no longer connect with them. I understand the dilemma- I often feel too that I cannot be the real me there. Recently I took a week's break and it was good but I can always find other ways to waste my time if not on FB. Whatever you decide, I hope we can still stay in touch. You have made a difference in my life xx

  3. Sometimes it is all about what we are willing to place on the alter. Love ya! Trust you will make the right decision, for you and for Him. I used facebook to stay on contact with many of my creative teams, but the rest of the time I spend perusing and clicking through other links - that's time wastage for sure.

  4. Tell you the truth, Tracy, I have yet to regret my decision to never have joined Facebook. I don't think I could take the like/unlike thing, and my husband and I kinda like the *anonymity* of not being on it. I am a bit tempted (right word???) to do Instagram or Twitter. Still pondering that one.

    So, I'm probably not the one to give advice on "to FB or not to FB" - (like the Shakespeare reference?!) But, I do know that the Lord will lead you to the right decision for you!


  5. Hello, dear friend, Just wanted to add some of my "two-cent's worth" to this discussion! My husband and I made the decision to never join facebook. It just never felt "right" to us. I have a blog, and it is not in any way connected to being published through facebook. I use blogger through google, and it has worked out well. The Lord has convicted me so many times of caring about the "numbers". It truly has become way more unimportant to me than it ever has before. As you said, we want God to allow the one(s) to read our posts that He knows it will be a blessing and help to. I think facebook includes a lot of self-promotion...the times I have visited facebook pages of others, I have left feeling SO drained. I can't really explain the feeling it has given me, other than to say, I do not feel I could ever join it. With all of that being said, I know there is a LOT of good that happens on facebook. Many prayer requests have been shared there and wonderful posts and edifying information. I just know me...I get way too involved in things, and I tend to waste too much time on things like this. It is not for me, I know this...God has made that abundantly clear to me. But, whether or not it is for others, is between them and Him. I certainly don't judge anyone for being on or for not being on. I know how conflicted you must feel....I do believe God will make it clear to you as to what you should do. As for me, I found you OUTSIDE of facebook, and you have always been a wonderful blessing and encouragement to me. I appreciate you and your blog very much. God bless you, dear friend. :)

  6. Ahhhh my friend, once again we seem to be on the same page. I too have been thinking of deactivating. However what I have been hearing in my spirit is to scale back. I have several several old friends who have been reached through FB status and posting my blogs on my wall. I am praying about my scaling back and as always I pray for you to. You are such a blessing to me and encourage me daily. Maybe this is a lesson in time management for me? Not sure but I am seeking ;) xoxoxo We always have "whats app" right?? :)

  7. I'll pray that you have a peace about whatever you decide, Tracy. I will miss seeing you there since I don't do blog hops anymore. :( But I understand. I used one of your photos from Croatia last week for one of my devotions and I meant to write and tell you thank you, but I forgot until now. Thank you!



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