Wednesday, 23 July 2014

Winsome Wednesday - Its hard to Let Go!

Its hard to let the old go right?!  You know that the Lord has worked in your situation, you know that your life is moving forward and that "thing", that "issue", is a thing of the past!  Right?

Sort of....

I think that leaving the past behind is like repentance or forgiveness.  You have to make it an act of your will, a physical step, until your emotions and heart catch up and that forgiveness or repentance is part of your being.

In my case, we had a 6 1/2 year long battle that left the family splintered.  We tried to do things God's way (and failed many times I might add) but He fought the battle.  He gave us the victory, He has given us and is still giving us vindication, and I long for and hope for, in faith, restoration in the family.  But sometimes it is really hard to let go of the past hurt and loss.

I have forgiven, as an act of my will and will continue to do so until that forgiveness is part of my being.  I have to repent of my attitude still because sometimes the hurt rears its ugly head and I fall into the trap of focusing on it, which then works its way into my words as bitterness and resentment!  Yup, lots of work still to be done there!

One way to see things differently is to pray for those who hate you, ask God to give you compassion for them, to see them as He sees them... It certainly helps soften one's heart!

Because restoration is not complete and because I don't like broken relationships within the family, I want to fix things, but God has shown me that my attempts have come to nothing.  My frustration at that has probably added to the distance.  God has repeatedly shown me to let them go, leave them in His hands and trust Him for restoration.

So, like with forgiveness and repentance, letting go is sometimes an act of one's will.  A physical letting go.  For me I no longer try to contact those with whom I seek restoration.  I will no longer stalk view them on social media to see what is going on in their lives.  No, I will let them go and reach out to those in my life today, those who want to be part of my life and those who God places in my path.  Yes, I will wait on the Lord for restoration in His time and in His way!  Because ultimately, His way is BEST!

Phil 3 v 13(b):  But one thing I do [it is my one aspiration]:  forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead.

I hope I have encouraged you today to let go of that which you cannot change or should stay in the past.  Leave that to the Lord, and walk in today with the light and blessing God has given you for today.

God bless


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  1. I know how hard it can be Tracy! People who hurt and/or attempt to damage our reputations are not easy to forgive without forgiveness and love. So thankful you have both worked things out in your hearts; I am sure that it has been a life learning experience, and God was with you each step of the way.
    Blessings friend!

  2. WOW WOW WOW!!! I love this post and can't even begin to tell you how much it has ministered to my heart today!!! Letting go can be so hard....I am in the process of doing just that myself!! Thank you once again for such a encouraging post!!

  3. We have a broken situation in our family right now, too, Tracy. I think the enemy takes special delight in destroying the family. Like you, I want to fix things. Bring peace and reconciliation. Not bad motives, but as you say, God is telling me to wait. It's hard, and it hurts. and it hurts to watch others hurting more than me. But God's got this, and He has your situation, too. Have a blessed week!

  4. Hi Tracy,
    God gave me Let Go for my One Word 2014...and it has truly been a year of letting go, in ways I couldn't have imagined.

  5. Oh, Tracy, that "stalking them on social media" is a big one. I've seen it lead to so much unforgiveness. I've counseled people to hide those on facebook that contribute to that. The constant "reminder" feeds unforgiveness. I've had to take my own advice a time or two! ~Pamela

  6. This story sounds very familiar Tracy. It IS hard to let go of those relationships. It IS hard to pray for those who hate you - esp when you don't understand why they hate you so much. But since those relationships have been removed from my life, it has given God the opportunity to move in my life, to heal, to restore, to build, to work out His plan! Those relationships were obstacles in His way.

  7. Forgiveness is such a process, isn't it? I want it to be a one-time-and-done thing, but instead it is lather-rinse-repeat. I admire the steps you're taking to let go. I know God will continue to bless them.

  8. It's so hard not to *tinker* in things, right? Especially when it comes to relationships. But yes, the work of restoration is at some point in the Lord's hands. I do pray that there will come a day of healing for your family. In the meantime, may God give you the strength to let it go and let it be.


  9. There are times when it is best to separate yourself from those with strife and anger. We have found it necessary to do this and God knows our hearts. May you use patience and may patience enlarge as you wait for God's timing.

  10. Tracy this post was God's perfect encouragement for me today as I struggle with a difficult family relationship...thank YOU.



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