Recently I read Psalm 73 in my quiet time and it spoke into my heart about how we feel about those who have hurt us. Particularly those who are not saved.
We see them prosper, we see them seemingly enjoying their lives. They seem to get away with pretty much everything. With regards to my own life there are those who hurt us badly, but over time, all they tried to do to us, came upon them. But it only happened as God was dealing with our own hearts so when it seemed their lives were falling apart, we had sympathy for them. We felt sorry for them. There was no celebrating their downfall. God warns us in His word that if we do celebrate at the downfall of another, He will turn His anger away from them (Prov 24 v 17-18: (17) Do not rejoice and gloat when your enemy falls,And do not let your heart be glad [in self-righteousness] when he stumbles, (18) Or the Lord will see your gloating and be displeased, And turn His anger away from your enemy.)
The first part of Psalm 73 the writer is saying how hurtful it is to see how his enemies prosper. Its in the moment, in the hurtful space, where we feel alone and vulnerable. Where we feel the Lord is far from us,.... and "they" seem to be having it all, despite tripping people up, despite the lies and deception that spews out of them. But then the writer says: Ps 73 v 17: Until I came into the sanctuary of God; Then I understood [for I considered] their end.
WOW! What a scary thought that is!
I remember times when watching TV and seeing people, like politicians, some very crooked, super wealthy, etc and seeing them get away with stuff, we would say "Some people have their heaven on earth". The point being, once they die...... then where do they go?! When its someone super evil like Hitler, its easy to not be upset about where he might spend eternity, right? But what if its a family member? What if its a good friend? A work colleague? Someone you know? And they do horrible stuff to you? And you watch them get away with evil ..... sometimes for years?!
When one steps aside from the hurt, and you enter into time with the Lord, and you consider their end? If you heart is right, it will reflect the sadness you feel for those who do what they do and do not know or do not want to know the Lord.
In our case, as far as we know, one of the people who turned on us has since become a Christian and that is great. Took a bit of time for me to feel good about that (a post for another time) but truly I am happy for that person, happy they found Christ, and that their end is not eternity in hell. The other one carries on as far as we know, doing what they always do... But, God instructs us to pray for our enemies. At this point, 9 years in, its not as hard as it was to pray for them, but its still not easy. More an act of my will really, but God rewards obedience!
My encouragement to you is that if someone is deliberately hurting you, and you know you are trying to walk a close path with the Lord, firstly, know that God has got your back and He WILL come through for you. Secondly, consider your enemy's end! You will think of them differently after that. And you will think differently on your circumstances too.