Wednesday, 15 June 2016

Marriage is so last Century!

Today one often hears that marriage is so "last Century", that its old fashioned and not for this day and age.  Well, I beg to differ!  When I go to the various "Marriage" pages on facebook, you see how well they are supported and followed and I see this to be true of Christian pages as well as secular pages.


Marriage is still very popular and a good, true, long-lasting marriage is certainly something a lot of people, men and women, long for!  I think the problem is not the lack of desire to be married, I think its once married, the desire to push through, under many stresses, be in it for the long haul, is what is lacking.  I think people get married hoping it will last forever, but forget that in order for it to last forever, you have to work at it, work through it, and figure it out as you go along.

I think people get married today thinking, "well, if it doesn't work, we will just quit and go our separate ways!"

Marriage IS tough!  Not only because of the joining of two completely different people, personalities, outlooks and upbringings, but also because of all the outside stresses of our world!  Much stability in the world comes from family, so the devil is driven to destroy marriages every where!  And, sadly, he has much success in these areas.

I think if two people, no matter how different, agree to find a way, agree to not give up, no matter what, that marriage will succeed.  But if one wants out... there is pretty much not much you can do about it, other than pray!

This weekend we watched the movie "The War room" and I found it to be very encouraging in how to tackle relationships that come under strain from every angle, inside and outside of a marriage.  Our best weapon as Christians is to pray for our spouses, to lift them up before the Lord, to ask Him to help us be the wife He wants us to be to our husbands.  To Help us change bad attitudes and to leave the work necessary in our husbands to God!  Only He can change what needs to be changed.  Yes, it may start with us, but truly, when you lift your marriage up before the Lord, He works in ways you would never imagine.

I know that many marriages don't make it and that is sad.  But if you are still married and its getting tough, turn to the Lord for the saving of it, because in my experience, the more I tried to "fix" things, the more I messed it up.  But when I went to the Lord, and asked Him to help me, He changed me, and He changed the heart of my husband!

Here are some excellent practical resources I have found:

Ashley and Dave Willis's website is Patheos Sixseeds and you can find them on facebook HERE.

http://sixseeds.patheos.com/


Happy Wives Club's website: Happy Wives Club and you will find them HERE on facebook.

http://www.happywivesclub.com/


Messy Marriage's website: Messy Marriage and you can find them HERE on facebook.


These resources are great encouragement for those struggling in marriage!  Also a great resource for those considering marriage!  There are many more resources out there but these are the ones I like at the moment.  I encourage you to push through, the rewards are great and God is a great rewarder of those who seek to do His will.

Gal 6 v 9:  And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
2 Chron 15 v 7: But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded.

God bless
Tracy

19 comments:

  1. I think the media is largely responsible for the myth that traditional values (marriage being one of them) are in the past. Having been a part of the media machine myself, I can see how they promote the extreme stories and report on things a decade ago would have never been mentioned in order to gain audiences and thus advertisers. The reason you don't hear traditional values being encouraged is because no one wants to hear a story about a husband and wife who stay together and raise well-adjusted, functioning and contributing kids. Instead, they find the weirdest of the weird, or the new and innovative to report on, all the while making normal people feel like they are in the minority. We as believer, must not fall under the spell of the media, but continue to do just as you quoted in Gal 6:9. thanks!

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    1. Hi Karen, great advice. Best way to not be influenced by the media, is to stop watching it right?!
      God bless

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  2. Last week my uncle and his girlfriend were teasing me about the fact that my husband and I have seven daughters and was laughing about how many weddings we'll have to pay for. Then he added, either that or they can just live together. I said no, I want them to do things the right way. I think I may have offended them because they live together. It's sad that even senior citizens who grew up in more traditional times are now falling for the lie. Visiting from Wise Woman link up!

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    1. Hi Shelly, so true, its as though anything goes these days. Maybe though, you planted a good seed?
      God bless

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  3. Last week my uncle and his girlfriend were teasing me about the fact that my husband and I have seven daughters and was laughing about how many weddings we'll have to pay for. Then he added, either that or they can just live together. I said no, I want them to do things the right way. I think I may have offended them because they live together. It's sad that even senior citizens who grew up in more traditional times are now falling for the lie. Visiting from Wise Woman link up!

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    1. Thanks Shortybear, your always popping over is an encouragement to me,
      God bless

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  5. I liked the movie Warroom, too. Priscilla Shirer's book on prayer Fervent, has great tips on how to pray for our marriage and family.

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    1. Hi Elizabeth, I will most certainly be looking that book up.
      God bless

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  6. I love marriage! I've been married for 28 years (woohoo) and actually had a book published when my daughter got married 2 years ago. It's for newlyweds and brides-to-be, just giving the practical heads-up on what to expect, what to work on right from the start, Biblical nuggets and humorous anecdotes, and how amazing marriage can be :) I think you're right—many are afraid to put in the hard work and reap the benefits. Thanks for sharing this... I'm your neighbour at 3D Lessons for Life :)

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    1. Hi Laura, me too 28 years in 2 days time! Woot woot! Thanks for popping over. Will be visiting shortly
      God bless

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  7. Marriage is not to be entered lightly and never with the words, "if it doesn't work out we can always get a divorce."
    It is good to remember the vows shared on the wedding day. Till death do us part is a good one to remember. Through tough times, and also the good times, always together. Thank you for sharing with us here at Tell me a Story.

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    1. Hi Hazel, yes and amen. Its in sticking it out that the rewards come.
      God bless

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  8. I still believe in marriage and I still hope I find the right one for me to spend the rest of my life with.

    Such a hopeful post. :)

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    1. Hi Lux, I pray for you that the Lord bring the right man into your life soon, someone who loves the Lord and will love you completely
      God bless

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  9. Thanks, Tracy for this reminder. Yes, marriage is hard work but so worth it. I'm thankful I waited for the right man to come along while everyone was telling me I better hurry it up and I was only 27 when we got married. Thanks for linking up with Thankful Thursdays.

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    1. Hi Lori, waiting is the best thing. I think its important (being a mom of 2 girls) that they be content with who they are first, so that they know who they are in Christ before becoming one with someone else and then disappear into who he is alone. Glad you found your Mr Right :)
      God bless

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  10. My youngest son is getting married in three weeks, and my prayer for him and his future wife is to always have God at the center of their marriage. They have founded their relationship on Him, and I know they will continue to do so. However, we all know how much the enemy works against God's people. So, we must all support each other in our marriages, and in our efforts to make God our priority.

    GOD BLESS!

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    1. Hi Sharon, that is the best way to start a marriage. having said that, it is not always how you start that matters, but how you end. At the end of the day though, to have Christ as the centre of your marriage is the BEST way to grow one's marriage.
      God bless

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