But I'm starting to wonder if the waiting is about, well, learning to wait, or something else! It obviously is about learning to wait otherwise the learning of it is for nothing. But I think its deeper than that. I think its in the learning to wait that the Lord brings us blessing in the form of overcoming, resolving stuff His way, learning to trust Him and His way, learning to have faith in Him.
For example, I am by nature a person who wants to fix things NOW. I can't rest until its sorted, I'm fidgety and frustrated and I couldn't read a good book if I tried in that moment. My mind would only relax once the issue is resolved. This applies to me in relationships too. And as I am sure you all know, relationships just don't "fix" that easy. There is all that emotion and history and hurt or anger or misunderstanding to delve through first! And then once all that has been waded through, there is pride, arrogance, hurt, embarrassment at maybe being wrong, self-righteousness at maybe being right. Yup, relationships are tough. And then heaven forbid I have to deal with more than one relationship that needs "fixing" at a time!
It is exhausting. Relationships are not like cars or a repairable chair , or a solvable puzzle. They are WAY MORE COMPLICATED! And I think it is in this that the Lord is trying to teach me patience and learn to wait - ON HIM - I don't need to fix anything. Actually, when I try to fix anything in a relationship, I make it worse!!!! Am I the only one? It is really tough waiting on the Lord to deal with the other person, or for that matter, deal with me!
Its in the waiting, and practicing of patience, that the Lord works on the other person, or on me and the real truth of the matter gets attended to. Now, I am not saying don't work on your relationship because we all have to. We all have to try our best to be fair, open, honest, pliable, giving and more... But what I am saying, if there is something there that is not an easy quick fix or goes a lot deeper, a situation where there are issues, old or new, that are unfathomable, then we have to wait on the Lord prayerfully.
I'm the type of person who is quick to apologize and because of that I expect others to be the same towards me. Now, if the other person doesn't feel they did wrong, or won't acknowledge their part in a situation, I tend to try point it out to them. I am speaking of my nearest and dearests. But that just makes it worse. I find it very easy to forgive if a person says sorry, but really difficult if I have to forgive without an apology. I believe the Lord is teaching me to not fix the situation, but to wait on Him to resolve it because in the waiting, He speaks into the heart of the other person, and mine and so long as there is a desire on the part of both parties, "fixing" occurs God's way, and God's way always works out for the best in the end.
So is the waiting really about learning patience? Or is there more to it? Yes, there certainly is more to it, the waiting teaches us patience, yes, but also trust in the Lord, faith in His ways, gets
Ps 27 v 14: Wait and hope for and expect the Lord; be brave and of good courage and let your heart be stout and enduring. Yes, wait for and hope for and expect the Lord.
Do you see that extra something special in this verse? Wait with expectation, wait with hope, good courage or good attitude, trusting the Lord to resolve it. Yes, in the waiting we need to be expectant and positive and hopeful of a good outcome.
So my encouragement to you is to ask the Lord in the waiting to show you what its really about. He will, because He doesn't want us to keep making the same mistakes we always do, trying to do things our own way.
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