Wednesday, 19 November 2014

Winsome Wednesday - Is it Really about Patience?

We have been going through a season of waiting.  Waiting on what the Lord has given us, waiting on things that ordinarily we would just decide and do!  Waiting.... And we have believed that we are in a waiting season and have dug in and decided to learn to wait, learn to be patient (as much as is possible for us impatient people)!

But I'm starting to wonder if the waiting is about, well, learning to wait, or something else!  It obviously is about learning to wait otherwise the learning of it is for nothing.  But I think its deeper than that.  I think its in the learning to wait that the Lord brings us blessing in the form of overcoming, resolving stuff His way, learning to trust Him and His way, learning to have faith in Him.

For example, I am by nature a person who wants to fix things NOW.  I can't rest until its sorted, I'm fidgety and frustrated and I couldn't read a good book if I tried in that moment.  My mind would only relax once the issue is resolved.  This applies to me in relationships too.  And as I am sure you all know, relationships just don't "fix" that easy.  There is all that emotion and history and hurt or anger or misunderstanding to delve through first!  And then once all that has been waded through, there is pride, arrogance, hurt, embarrassment at maybe being wrong, self-righteousness at maybe being right.  Yup, relationships are tough.  And then heaven forbid I have to deal with more than one relationship that needs "fixing" at a time!

It is exhausting.  Relationships are not like cars or a repairable chair , or a solvable puzzle.  They are WAY MORE COMPLICATED!  And I think it is in this that the Lord is trying to teach me patience and learn to wait - ON HIM - I don't need to fix anything.  Actually, when I try to fix anything in a relationship, I make it worse!!!! Am I the only one?  It is really tough waiting on the Lord to deal with the other person, or for that matter, deal with me!


Its in the waiting, and practicing of patience, that the Lord works on the other person, or on me and the real truth of the matter gets attended to.  Now, I am not saying don't work on your relationship because we all have to.  We all have to try our best to be fair, open, honest, pliable, giving and more... But what I am saying, if there is something there that is not an easy quick fix or goes a lot deeper, a situation where there are issues, old or new, that are unfathomable, then we have to wait on the Lord prayerfully.

I'm the type of person who is quick to apologize and because of that I expect others to be the same towards me.  Now, if the other person doesn't feel they did wrong, or won't acknowledge their part in a situation, I tend to try point it out to them.  I am speaking of my nearest and dearests.  But that just makes it worse.  I find it very easy to forgive if a person says sorry, but really difficult if I have to forgive without an apology.  I believe the Lord is teaching me to not fix the situation, but to wait on Him to resolve it because in the waiting, He speaks into the heart of the other person, and mine and so long as there is a desire on the part of both parties, "fixing" occurs God's way, and God's way always works out for the best in the end.

So is the waiting really about learning patience?  Or is there more to it?  Yes, there certainly is more to it, the waiting teaches us patience, yes, but also trust in the Lord, faith in His ways, gets us me into less trouble too.

Ps 27 v 14:  Wait and hope for and expect the Lord; be brave and of good courage and let your heart be stout and enduring.  Yes, wait for and hope for and expect the Lord.
Do you see that extra something special in this verse?  Wait with expectation, wait with hope, good courage or good attitude, trusting the Lord to resolve it.  Yes, in the waiting we need to be expectant and positive and hopeful of a good outcome.

So my encouragement to you is to ask the Lord in the waiting to show you what its really about.  He will, because He doesn't want us to keep making the same mistakes we always do, trying to do things our own way.

God bless
Tracy


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13 comments:

  1. Learning to wait is so much harder that just waiting! Arg! What a thing you are going through...
    I think we could be kindred spirits. I too, am quick to apologize but then I expect the other person to apologize back. I totally get you here.
    Thank you for hosting.
    Blessings,

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    1. Hi Deborah, so glad to hear I am not the only one who thinks like this :)
      Thanks for visiting and commenting.
      God bless

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  2. Waiting is hard...and so can be forgiving! I think that forgiving quite often is a process. I forgive and give it to the Lord, and then wait for Him to resolve it! But, then, unforgiveness can creep back in. So, when that happens, I just start the process over again! Through that...I'm learning patience...and patience with myself! It seems the two things are linked together, aren't they?

    Blessings, Tracy...as you wait!

    In Him, Joan

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    1. Hi Joan, You are so correct that forgiveness is a process and I love how you say we need to be patient with ourselves too.
      God bless

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  3. Waiting is extremmely hard for me. I , too apologize first and then expect all to be "fixed" instantly. Seems I tend to run ahead of God ~sigh~ In this waiting period I am in now, this post hit it's mark with me in a HUGE way!!! Regardless of how uncomfortable it may be for me, this process of learning is much needed in my life.
    Thank you for always speaking to my heart!!!
    Xoxox
    Stacey

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    1. Hi Stacey, I am so grateful that you can relate because it makes me feel less of a failure knowing that I am not the only one who has these issues :)
      God bless

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  4. I'm with you, friend. Waiting is so HARD!! I don't like doing it and get resentful when forced to. It's a refining that God is working in me in this area.

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    1. Hi Alecia, it certainly is a refining, by wait not fire, lol! It is an area where much work is needed in me :)
      God bless

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  5. Thank you for hosting. I once heard that patience means long suffering. That makes sense. But I always think twice when I pray for patience!

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    1. Hi Jenny, I sooooo agree with you. I'd rather pray for the Lord to remove the need to be patient but sigh, that is not how He works :)
      God bless

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  6. Tracy, you hit it on the head! It is not jus patience, but trust we are learning in the wait. The Lord has brought me a long way in this as I have learned to trust Him in dealing with me, the other person and the situation

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    1. Hi there, it really is a great place to be, where you can leave the changing of hearts in a situation to the Lord. We are however an impatient bunch us humans. So grateful for the Lord's mercy and grace with me in all things
      God bless

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  7. Relationships...Oh, yeah!!! Never are they easy, when it comes to trying to work on them. And when those relationships are family, look out!! It can be VERY tough, especially around the holidays! I recently posted about how family can cause so much drama in our lives and the harder we try to mend those fences, the more holes seem to get ripped..Having the patience to let God do the mending in His time and His way is a difficult thing for me, too! I recently had to come to terms with this, as it was affecting my physical and emotional health. I had to limit my time with some family and even take a break from others, and get back into a healthy place for me. Thanks for sharing!

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