I think that leaving the past behind is like repentance or forgiveness. You have to make it an act of your will, a physical step, until your emotions and heart catch up and that forgiveness or repentance is part of your being.
In my case, we had a 6 1/2 year long battle that left the family splintered. We tried to do things God's way (and failed many times I might add) but He fought the battle. He gave us the victory, He has given us and is still giving us vindication, and I long for and hope for, in faith, restoration in the family. But sometimes it is really hard to let go of the past hurt and loss.
I have forgiven, as an act of my will and will continue to do so until that forgiveness is part of my being. I have to repent of my attitude still because sometimes the hurt rears its ugly head and I fall into the trap of focusing on it, which then works its way into my words as bitterness and resentment! Yup, lots of work still to be done there!
One way to see things differently is to pray for those who hate you, ask God to give you compassion for them, to see them as He sees them... It certainly helps soften one's heart!
Because restoration is not complete and because I don't like broken relationships within the family, I want to fix things, but God has shown me that my attempts have come to nothing. My frustration at that has probably added to the distance. God has repeatedly shown me to let them go, leave them in His hands and trust Him for restoration.
So, like with forgiveness and repentance, letting go is sometimes an act of one's will. A physical letting go. For me I no longer try to contact those with whom I seek restoration. I will no longer
Phil 3 v 13(b): But one thing I do [it is my one aspiration]: forgetting what lies behind and straining forward to what lies ahead.
I hope I have encouraged you today to let go of that which you cannot change or should stay in the past. Leave that to the Lord, and walk in today with the light and blessing God has given you for today.
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