Lately I have felt that those who have hurt us and continue to do so are just not getting it! There are those who are being deliberate and I'm not overly concerned about them because mentally I have cut them off (because it hurts so much) and left them to the Lord (or so I tell myself). Its the ones that claim to be Christians but who have allowed jealousies and envies to colour their vision and yet another who seems to think that if you hide your head in the sand, then there are no issues to resolve.
By their actions, or lack of actions they hurt us further. And so I start getting resentful and bitter. I am so grateful that the Lord does not let me get away with this attitude for long.
I am also very grateful that I have friends I can trust with my heart and who I can talk to, to thrash out my feelings and help me see where I am letting my hurt colour MY actions.
So, we go visit said friends! I let them know how I feel and what actions I am going to take due to my hurt! And I ask, hoping that biblically they will back me up! Nope! No such luck. No, my friends draw me to the truth. Yes, you are being hurt, but you want to reward evil for evil! Not God's way!
1 Peter 3 v 9: Never return evil for evil or insult for insult (scolding, tongue-lashing, berating), but on the contrary blessing [praying for their welfare, happiness, and protection, and truly pitying and loving them]. For know that to this you have been called, that you may yourselves inherit a blessing [from God] - that you may obtain a blessing as heirs, bringing welfare and happiness and protection].
Okay, I get that! But, seriously, I don't want to do that! I want them to know their actions are hurting us, I want them to feel what I and my family are feeling. BUT, that is not God's way. Truly, He does not want us to lose our blessing. So, despite their actions, we must remain true to Him and what He requires of us.
Their actions? Well, they are between God and them. I believe God's word here where it says: Psalm 10 v 13-14: Why do the wicked get away with despising God? They think, "God will never call us to account." (14) But You see the trouble and grief they cause. You take note of it and punish them. The helpless put their trust in You. You defend the orphans. God sees! Never believe otherwise! I believe they will reap what they sow, but then so will we.
So I choose this day to not lose my blessing. I choose to change my attitude and do what the Lord requires of me to do and to not be obsessed with their attitudes. To show grace, mercy and faithfulness to Him. The choices they make? Their choices may affect me, but they should not affect my attitude as I should be doing what I do as unto the Lord! For His reward! His Blessing!
I hope this encourages you to keep doing good to those who hurt you or who ignore or use you. Do it as unto the Lord if that is what He has called you to do! He has His reward for you, and His desire is to bless you.
PS: Thank you Lord for my honest, tell it like it is, friends! They are a blessing!