I am pretty proficient in the language of sarcasm and generally up until recently pretty proud of that fact. You know, people will say "But sarcasm is the lowest form of wit." To which I would proudly respond, "Ahh, but wit is the highest form of intelligence!" Made me feel clever! Really? High intelligence should probably point out to me that sarcasm is not productive.
Its my go to place in an argument! No wonder the arguments go wrong!
The other day someone close to me misread my response. I was trying to keep quiet and give them space and they saw that as non-interest. I kind of felt no matter what, I get it wrong! So, I explained to her that I was trying to give her space and her response was something along the lines of "Well the least you could do is say xyz!!!!" So my response: "I'll send a letter next time, in triplicate!!!" Dripping with sarcasm. Smart remark coming from a place of hurt! To do what? To hurt in return.
Then I read an article called SARCASM KILLS.
It is so true that sarcasm is designed to cut someone off at the ankles. Its designed to flatten and deflate someone. Its designed to hurt and injure the heart! Its designed to laugh at another's pain or inadequacy! Sarcasm is showing disdain for another. Granted, it often comes from a place of hurt in the first place but also too, from a place of, "I'm going to put you in your place good and proper and don't mess with me!"
It goes back to what the word says about the tongue and how we use it. Do we use our words for good or evil? Sarcasm is definitely on the high end of evil! Time for me to put that particular tool back into the toolbox in the drawer marked "useless and unnecessary equipment"! Sarcasm - It has got to go!
Proverbs 18v21: Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.
Ouch! What fruit do I want to eat? Good fruit! And good words DO produce good fruit! Bad words? Well, bad fruit, hurt and anger and negative reactions, and broken relationship. Hmmm.... makes a person think!
Prov 15v1: A soft answer turneth away wrath: but grievous words stir up anger.
I encourage you to use your words more wisely. Believe me when I say I am speaking firmly and directly to myself here too. We can do this, with the Lord's help. He knows this weakness we have because He has mentioned it numerous times in the Word! Only through Him can we overcome. So, in Him, let us overcome!
Linking this week with these lovely ladies: