Monday, 23 September 2013

Sarcasm - It's got to Go....

I am pretty proficient in the language of sarcasm and generally up until recently pretty proud of that fact.  You know, people will say "But sarcasm is the lowest form of wit." To which I would proudly respond, "Ahh, but wit is the highest form of intelligence!"  Made me feel clever!  Really?  High intelligence should probably point out to me that sarcasm is not productive.


Its my go to place in an argument!  No wonder the arguments go wrong!

The other day someone close to me misread my response.  I was trying to keep quiet and give them space and they saw that as non-interest.  I kind of felt no matter what, I get it wrong!  So, I explained to her that I was trying to give her space and her response was something along the lines of "Well the least you could do is say xyz!!!!"  So my response: "I'll send a letter next time, in triplicate!!!"  Dripping with sarcasm.  Smart remark coming from a place of hurt!  To do what?  To hurt in return.

Sigh....

Then I read an article called SARCASM KILLS.

It is so true that sarcasm is designed to cut someone off at the ankles.  Its designed to flatten and deflate someone.  Its designed to hurt and injure the heart!  Its designed to laugh at another's pain or inadequacy! Sarcasm is showing disdain for another.  Granted, it often comes from a place of hurt in the first place but also too, from a place of,  "I'm going to put you in your place good and proper and don't mess with me!"

It goes back to what the word says about the tongue and how we use it.  Do we use our words for good or evil?  Sarcasm is definitely on the high end of evil!  Time for me to put that particular tool back into the toolbox in the drawer marked "useless and unnecessary equipment"!  Sarcasm - It has got to go!

Proverbs 18v21:  Death and life [are] in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.  

Ouch!  What fruit do I want to eat?  Good fruit!  And good words DO produce good fruit!  Bad words?  Well, bad fruit, hurt and anger and negative reactions, and broken relationship.  Hmmm.... makes a person think!

Prov 15v1:  A soft answer turneth away wrath:  but grievous words stir up anger.

I encourage you to use your words more wisely.  Believe me when I say I am speaking firmly and directly to myself here too.  We can do this, with the Lord's help.  He knows this weakness we have because He has mentioned it numerous times in the Word!  Only through Him can we overcome.  So, in Him, let us overcome!

God bless
Tracy

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14 comments:

  1. I probably don't have to tell you that I tend to use sarcasm quite a bit. Thanks for the reminder to make sure my words are not being hurtful and insensitive.

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  2. Absolutely Tracy! I grew up watching sarcastic sitcoms and with a very critical family member- God has dealt with me long and hard on the issue of sarcasm. Oswald Chambers quote I love- I think it is : Sarcasm is the weapon of the weak man but my hubby translates it this way: "Sarcasm is the Devil's pitchfork!". 'nuff said, right? Love you, friend!

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  3. A wonderful reminder Tracy. I do try to be so careful about the words that come out of my mouth. Where we also need to be careful is in these online communications. Messages can be misread so easily and you don't always know how your message is being interpreted. You may have intended no harm but it can come across as harmful to the recepient.

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  4. Yup, also pretty fluent in the language of sarcasm. I don't use it often, but when I do, it's scathing.

    That old adage about "words will never hurt me." Wrong, wrong, wrong. Words can kill a person's spirit, damage their sense of self-worth, and destroy communication.

    We are wise to mind our p's and q's - and every other letter in the alphabet!!

    GOD BLESS!

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  5. Hi Tracy! Oh, I agree. Growing up with seven siblings made me flourish in sarcasm. We would roll with laughter because we knew it was all so silly, but no one else would know that.

    Intention is the key. I would never want to hurt anyone, so I need to reign that sarcasm in!
    Happy Monday, Tracy :)
    Ceil

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  6. Oh wow - so convicting today. I must confess to stooping to this lower form of "wit" thank you for reminding me of what the Word says. "A soft answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger".

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  7. So, so true. Sarcasm may get a laugh occasionally, but at whose expense? :-( Usually somebody's, and often somebody that's not even there to defend themselves. Thanks for this, Tracy. We all need to watch ourselves with this; I know I do!

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  8. I totally agree. I'm bad with sarcasm -- I often use it to appear funny, but is it really? Definitely not if it hurts someone's feelings!

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  9. Thanks for this eye opener post. WOW sarcasm can really hurt and even kill (at least kill a friendship) Often it takes much time for us to learn to watch our words and speak gently. Thanks for sharing with us here at "Tell Me a True Story."

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  10. I was raised with significant sarcasm. It was the way I lived while dealing with the fighting and abuse and frustration in our family. When I was in my mid-30s, the Lord delivered me of it. And the main other rule was that I not use it again. SO, for the past 30-plus years I have been careful about it, even when frustration almost made it prod me. But I don't! Sarcasm, based on the meaning of this: to tear flesh, bite the lip in rage, sneer. I truly need to stay away from it. My family and friends don't, yet. Anyhow, thanks. Sure understand.

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  11. I totally agree. Thank you for this great post this.

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  12. Great reminders about how Christians should talk to those around them. I grew up in a family of "funny" people so it's easy to let the sarcasm seep in, if we're not careful. I could easily see us saying something along the lines of your first paragraph to each other. (Visiting from Faith Filled Friday linkup.)

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  13. Tracy This was such a good post. I do NOT like sarcasm. I'm not saying that I never say anything sarcastic, I probably do sometimes but you are so right. It can hurt people when we don't mean it to. Thanks for sharing this over at WholeHearted Home this past week.

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