Well, duh, no! The thing is, to do something like that brings resentment. Brings bitterness! Brings anger! So, obviously that is not God's way. What I should have been doing is forgiving the person whose issue it was and asking the Lord to deal graciously with me and with that person. There are people in our lives who have the ability to manipulate us, who have the ability to make us feel guilty about things that are not! Its the devil's way of bogging us down and blinding us to the strength and power of the Lord to heal and repair and restore.
Sigh! Sometimes we really have to knock our heads hard and be in a situation where there really are no more "human" solutions before we give up and "let God"!
I think too that relating to God the Father also depends on our earthly fathers. Did they let us down? Did they fail us? Did they scare us? Did they harm us? Did they do a great job as a dad? My dad was weak, but he was a funny man who, for some reason had absolutely no self-esteem and he slowly but surely destroyed his relationships with others and ultimately he destroyed himself.
I grew up in a non-Christian home and I don't recall having any Christian family at all. My Mom dropped me off at church every Sunday and it is because of that, that I finally came to call God my Father, Jesus my Saviour. And because I had no "Christian" influence I think my understanding of God was of the New Testament. The God of the Old Testament was to me a distant disciplinarian, A God that took no nonsense.
BUT.... This is so not true. God is patient! He put up with so much nonsense from His people. He gave them so many chances. Not only that, after He disciplined them, He restored them. The more I read the Old Testament the more I know my God, my Father, my Salvation, loves me. He loves me so much He cares about every little thing I care about. He cares enough about me that He extends grace that I don't deserve. Mercy that I don't deserve. He gave His only Son for me! For you! How can I not know His gentleness and grace and love for me?
This is what I felt the other morning and I felt so warm, so grateful and it renewed how I was looking at myself and how I was looking at others around me!
My encouragement to you today is focus on your relationship with God and He will touch your heart and repair and restore your soul and you will be able to walk forward day by day in your human relationships.
Ps 5 v 3: My voice You shall hear in the morning, O Lord; in the morning I will direct it to You, and I will look up.
Linking this week with these lovely ladies:
(you will find links to there bloghops HERE:)