Tuesday, 10 January 2012

Quiet I am not!

So, I talk too much!  I get angry too quickly!  When I feel defensive I talk myself into a corner!  When I don't think you get my point I, um ... make sure you do, verbally!  Yep, I am not good at keeping quiet!


The quality that always gets my attention in other women is the ability to look serene, and not have the need to defend or explain oneself.  When they do speak their speech is full of love, laughter, encouragement.  Never a negative word do they speak.  Their faces shine with an inner beauty!  THAT'S WHAT I WANT!

Prov 17 v 28:  Even a fool is counted wise when he holds his peace (keeps quiet - yep); when he shuts his lips, he is considered perceptive!
Even a fool is considered wise when keeping quiet.  Very valuable lesson there!


One of the areas in which I can improve (there are many) is "pick your fight", as in - How important is it?  For example, if I say its black and you say its grey, does it really matter?  Is it worth causing an argument over?  Is it worth fracturing a relationship for?  No!  It isn't!

Something I've been training myself to do with those closest to me when I disagree or if I feel wronged, I tell myself "let it go, let it go" and I have been practising that.  It certainly takes the wind out of the sails of a potential argument.


Yes, I want to learn to be quiet (a quiet, content person).  I want to cultivate an inner peace and as 1 Peter 3 v 4 says:  Let it be the hidden person of the heart, with the incorruptible ornament of a gentle and quiet spirit, which is very precious in the sight of God

My encouragement to you if you too find it difficult to keep quiet - let it go, and if its truly unfair - let God, He will!

God bless
Tracy

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16 comments:

  1. WOW we women do like to talk and it is true that often it is too much. I agree with your wonderful post. I tell my daughters, the secret of a happy marriage is to learn to "Keep your mouth shut and just listen." Later when he calms down, very quietly speak your opinion. Amazing that he may eventually come up with the idea you just told him, and YOU let him think it was his. :-)

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  2. Aw; this is something I work on controlling too Tracy. It is difficult to tame a tongue, and deliver words fitly spoken, seasoned with grace! I know the secret to taming my tongue is to meditate on God's words so that my thoughts can be more like His thoughts. :)

    Blessings and hugs!
    Denise

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  3. yes, letting it go. often i need to do this with my children, rather than going on and on and on. i think they probably got the point in the first one or two sentences :-)
    great words of encouragement as i get my day started here. thanks!
    steph

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  4. Good word for today Tracy. We all need to practice it more. Letting things go can be hard. I have to walk away and talk to God or put some music in my ears! It is helpful.
    Bless you today friend, Chelle

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  5. In my daily reading this morning, I read from Psalm 141:3, "Set a guard, oh Lord, over my mouth; keep watch over the door of my lips."

    I often have to pray this verse for myself.

    Blessings,
    Joan

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  6. There are times I REALLY struggle to keep quiet and times when I really can't! What I need is the wisdom to know the difference. I do believe that God calls people like us to speak out against injustice and we need to learn how to temper that. I am missing you, see you tomorrow in the parking lot?

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  7. "Even a fool is thought wise when he holds his peace." --That makes me laugh wryly here in MN this morning. Yep, that's what I should have done yesterday. :)

    Thankful for God's restorative powers and for humble apologies,
    Jennifer Dougan
    www.jenniferdougan.com

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  8. Letting it go...no doubt, when I surrender to the Lord and He gives me victory to do just that, life is happier. One thing He has been teaching me is that I also need to "let it go" in my mind. For most of my life, when I have kept my mouth shut, the words have continued to run wild in my heart and mind, building resentment, bitterness and anger. There is a time to be quiet, and there is a time to speak. I pray God gives me the wisdom to know which time it is and to supply the words I need when I need them.

    Great Post!
    ~Stacy

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  9. Tracy, I think this is a challenge for some many of us. We want to prove our point. Yet, sometimes, God is asking us to simply step back, keep our mouths shut, and trust HIM!

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  10. Seemss we may be in the same place. Sounds a lot like what was on my heart yesterday =)

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  11. Well girlfriend, you are stepping all over my toes today.....Obviously God guided me right over here so He could have me read your words from Him....Thank you for being obedient.....

    Yes, I too desire a quiet and contented spirit but way too often my tongue just has to make sure someone has not misunderstood me....I too am learning to pick my battles and quickly asking God to help me say what I need to say or to keep quiet....He alone has the answers.....

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  12. I might talk a lot too, Tracy. ;) And my words have gotten me into trouble more than once. Great encouragement today to think before I speak.

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  13. This is great Tracy! I am trying to learn not to "sweat the small stuff" too. I can't please everyone and guess what... they also can't always please me :) I hear Him whisper... "just be quiet" to my heart often and I'm learning to heed His warnings better and better. And later I always realize what a blessing I had received by buttoning up! Blessings!

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  14. Thank you for this reminder. I also need to let things go more. Especially with my husband

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  15. Hi everyone - I am so glad that I am not the only one who has this, um, issue in my life, :) Thank you all for commenting, I really appreciate it and I really appreciate you.
    God bless
    Tracy

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  16. Wow, this is so me. And I look on those quiet, kind, pleasant women with admiration too. I try so often to be like that. And I always fail. My passion always seems to overcome me and I can't hide my true feelings.

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