Wednesday, 14 September 2011

Judging Much?!

So, I live on a dirt road.  Only about 1km of it!  But I'm on this bit of road numerous times a day.  School and back, deliveries and back, shops and back, school and back - you get the picture :)

Well, in winter our roads are like liquid caramel!  My white car - always looks 1/2 chocolate (or maybe that should be caramel)!  In summer the road is very dusty.  The wind facing neighbours battle with the dust, so what do they do?  They WATER the roads for a longggg time, sooo, liquid caramel!

Ok, maybe not this bad!
Now, I do have my car washed once a week but invariably tomorrow its full of mud again.  The fact that I don't drive at a snail's pace might not help matters either :)


The point I'm making (yes, I do have a point) is that wherever I go someone looks at my car, looks at me (up and down mind you!) and make an assumption (I'm assuming...) about me!  My girls normally laugh at me having lots to say about how '"those people" are judging me' and 'I bet they didn't wash their cars last week'.  My standard response is usually "I'm having a sticker made that says 'my car is a reflection of WHERE I live, not HOW I live!'"

That point I was alluding to....judging others and making assumptions can be really easy.  It becomes a vicious circle!  Above, I speak of how I feel judged, but then in feeling judged, I judge right back!  Well, you know the saying "the buck stops here?" and "It starts or ends with me?"  Best I start making some assumption changes within myself first!

Matt 7 1-2:  Judge not, that you be not judged.  For with what judgement you judge, you will be judged: and with the same measure you use, it will be measured back to you.

Can I just insert a big OUCH here?!


Leave judging to the Lord, oh, and next time you see a dirty car, think nice thoughts :)

God bless
Tracy


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20 comments:

  1. What a perfect illustration of how easy it is to slip into a mentality of judgement without immediate realization!

    It reminds me of a time a friend and I were in Starbucks last winter. A man walked in literally filthy, from head to toe... his shirt was torn, he had black mess smeared all over himself, and he had an odor one couldn't help but notice. Because of the deep snow outside, the melting snow attached to his clothing caused the grime on his clothes to leave a sludge mark with every step he took.

    An employee came from behind the counter yelling at him to leave, that she was tired of bums coming in to beg for free coffee, chasing off the other customers.

    Come to find out, this man was just passing through town, taking a shortcut off the highway because of traffic, and found himself stuck on a road that hadn't been snow plowed yet... and as he tried to turn about, he realized a home a block down was on fire. He ran down the road to the burning house that fire trucks were unable to reach because of the snow, and assisted in rescuing a man, his wife, and their four children from the home... going back in for their dog.

    They fought the fire for hours, finally beating it, and here he was, walking into Starbucks, covered in soot mistaken for dirt, to buy from his own pocket a warm cup of coffee at the end of a tough winter day for the couple who were now homeless, and all those who assisted in putting out the fire in the middle of a snow covered street.

    I wept as we talked to him outside the doors of Starbucks, silently praying that the Lord watch my thoughts for signs of a judgmental spirit sneaking in.

    I'm convinced the saying "cleanliness is close to Godliness" only refers to the heart within.

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  2. God may the only thing I dish out be love and grace...

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  3. My car's already dirty...maybe it is time for a visit?
    Lovely post today and something I need to work on, although not cars as much as people begging at the robots.

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  4. We do judge others so unfairly by how they look...or how they keep their cars. Maybe the reason I never think to wash my car now is from the years growing up and living on dirt roads. So now, as dirty as it gets, it is never as dirty as living on dirt African roads!

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  5. I can only imagine the frustration of keeping your car clean-ha! Sad though, isn't it? If people would spend less time and energy judging and categorizing every little thing,they would be much more aware of the beauty and diversity around them. How much more alive you feel when you get beyond the need to judge! :)

    Blessings and love on this Wednesday!
    Denise

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  6. Hi Jennifer - your story illustrates so well how judging others is so debilitating. Thank you for this.

    Hi Shannon - amen

    Hi Stefanie - it is time for a visit and I think its so difficult to think past what we see and not be judgemental. Its a learning curve of note.

    Hi Shanda - before we lived here I think I did the same (shh) but now I see a dirty car, I think shame, where do they live? :)

    Hi Denise - you are so right, its a total waste of energy. We should use our energy more wisely and for good not bad.

    Thank you ladies for your comments. I appreciate them
    God bless
    Tracy

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  7. Was the picture your actual road . . . because the view at the end was beautiful.

    I have strong tendencies to self-righteous thinking. Thanks for the reminder.

    Fondly,
    Glenda

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  8. Tracy,

    I think we have a story to tell when it comes to this, I served meals at a homeless shelter for a little while, after talking with some of the people there I found out that some of them at one time were just like me, they jobs, homes, families. They lost their job and everything else eventually followed, it was a real eye opener and uncomfortably sobering.

    Blessings Tracy.

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  9. Great illustration. We should judge others. We should think they are judging us because we are judging them. Great post!

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  10. Tjong, wat 'n mooi pad op die foto. Is dit regtig by jou? Ek sou dit nie hiervan vind dat my motor daar elke keer so uit sou sien. Maar ja, niks aan te doen.

    Dat veroordeel is regtig baie erg. Soms doen jy dit nie in die openbaar nie, maar het jy in jou kop ( is dit goeie Afrikaans woordje - in Holland alleen dieren hebben een kop) wel sekere gedagtes wat nie goed wees. Dank je wel vir hierdie posting!

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  11. Love this post Tracy, yes, how easy it is to judge. I think you should drive a LandRover and everyone will think the dirt really looks cool :)

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  12. Great reminder Tracy :) We're all guilty, but I want to see others as Christ does... it's an intentional effort! Blessings :)

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  13. can't judge a book by it's cover. someone wrote 'wash me' on my back window just this week!

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  14. Great point about judging, Tracy. When we criticize others for judging us, aren't we in turn judging them? I want to leave the judging up to God. After all, He is the only perfect One. Many blessings!

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  15. Hi Glenda - no it isn't but my road is just as cool, A view of Table mountain in one direction and the Boland mountains in the other.

    Hi Kandi - its very humbling to realise that everyone has a story, and it may just be the same as our own. Assumptions are dangerous to our souls, something I need to work on.

    Hi Jenifer - thats what got me, I'm assuming they're judging me and then I'm doing it right back.

    Hi Jedidja - dis nie my pad nie, maar my pad is ook mooi, met Tafelberg een kant en die Boland berge die ander kant. Jy maak a goeie punt dat ons se dit nie altyd nie, maar dink dit ook. Dankie

    Hi Marja - I drive something similar but only the car washes joke about it being designer mud :)

    Hi Heidi - I like that, an intentional effort and maybe that's half the problem, its an effort! Far easier to judge too quickly. Great point

    Hi Allison, you should have seen the images I saw when looking for ones for the post. People do awesome artwork out of dirty windows! :)

    Hi Lisa - He is the only perfect one and the only one who has ALL the facts :)

    Ladies, i am very blessed by you all.
    God bless
    Tracy

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  16. Tracy - this is a great illustration of not "judging a book by its cover." Lord knows I couldn't cast a stone, yet a times I still struggle.

    And by the way, if you saw my blue van that looks gray with this dry Texas dust, you would know I couldn't judge you! :) (And I don't even wash it weekly.)

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  17. Hi Joan - thank you, you are so sweet. I think its something we all struggle with. God bless
    Tracy

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  18. Funny post. Only problem with the sticker is that people might not be able to see it (beneath the caramel)! LOL.

    The Write Soil

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  19. Hi Dawn - umm, could be a problem :)
    God bless
    Tracy

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  20. Hehe, being busy can make you forget about giving your car a well-deserved bath. And that caramel-looking car would need a lot of cleaning to look good again! Haha!

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