Tuesday, 19 July 2011

Battling with bitterness?

I've been thinking a lot lately about bitterness.  The reason being that I think there is a smidgen of it stuck in my heart.  Why?  Because when a certain someone says something to me, I snap at them so quickly, its unreasonable.  So I asked God to show me what to do about it and this is what He directed me to in my quiet time:

Eph 4 v 31:  Let all bitterness (oops) and indignation (ohoh) and wrath [passion, rage(who me?), bad temper (ok,ok)] and resentment (anger, animosity (me again)) and quarreling (brawling, clamor, contention (ok, who is reading my mind?)) and slander (evil-speaking, abusive or blasphemous language (phew - not this one at least) be banished from you, with all malice (spite, ill-will, or baseness or any kind).
(all highlighted stuff added by me)

In short - Let all "stuff" be banished from you!

Let all that stuff go!

Not so easy to put into practice, but then God's word also says "all things are possible through Christ who strengthens me".

Don't let the Root take over!
And then God says, once you have banished these thoughts from your mind you are to:

Eph 4 v 32:  Become useful and helpful and kind to one another, tenderhearted (compassionate, understanding, loving-hearted), forgiving one another (readily and freely - (how?)), as God in Christ forgave you!
(all highlighted stuff added by me)

So God wants me to:
  • Banish all 'those' things from my mind
  • Replace them with the good things, which entail the practical (helpful, useful) and the spiritual (compassionate, loving), and
  • Forgive, as God has forgiven me!

My encouragement to you is:
  • Never give up if you feel bitterness in your heart, let God's word help you to unroot it
  • Be kind, compassionate and forgiving 'now' to those who have hurt you in the past
  • Press forward in faith knowing the God is in control and His word changes you from the inside.

Once we can learn to let go of bitterness and respond in love, an inner peace fills those places in your heart.  God is so gracious with us when we put our trust in Him.

God bless
Tracy

Joining with Jen at Soli Deo Gloria sisterhood
Joining with Shanda at On your Heart Tuesdays
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31 comments:

  1. This really touched me. Thanks so much for posting it.

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  2. I enjoyed this post. I've recently been asking God to show me and root out anything that is not of Him too. Especially in relation to forgiveness. To make sure that I forgive people as God has forgiven me so much.

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  3. Loved the purple bits you added . . . we should all be that honest when reading Scripture.

    Fondly,
    Glenda

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  4. Great post, esp love the photo of the tree roots taking over the building - very powerful and will stay with me for the rest of the day...as I mull over what to do about my mother.

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  5. Hi Kelly - glad you got something out of this post.

    Hi Joyful - a good thing to do, ask God to examine our hearts and then take action when He shows us.

    Hi Glenda - Yes, I agree, kind of makes it hotter so you have to move, and do something about it!

    Hi Stefanie - I think I got a bit of that root too, the mommy one.

    Thanks ladies for the comments, they encourage me a lot.
    Tracy

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  6. thanks for the kick - I'm in real danger of letting bitterness take over at the moment - I think I'll stick your verses to my computer monitor today.

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  7. Hi Jedidja - baie dankie vir die kuier - hoop jy kan my verstaan in afrikaans. Ek volg jou blog terug.
    Dankie
    Tracy

    Hi Tracey - Good, its the best place for averse like that. Quite a tough one for me, but all the more reason to get it into my heart.

    God bless you ladies
    Tracy

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  8. Oh, resentment. You know, I saw my stepmother this weekend. I've harbored resentment for her for a long time. Some of the things she said to me this weekend truly were cutting and mean. But my husband pointed out that my resentment for her is so deep and wide that if she did say something kind, I would assume the worst and take it as an affront. Made me think!

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  9. Resentments can eat a way at us. God desires to give us so much more if we will make the decision to let go!

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  10. Nice image of the stuff flying/falling. Ephesians 4:32 has special meaning for me b/c it's the verse my mom made my brother and I recite (while holding hands) when we fought, as children.

    We know it cold, to this day.

    Thanks for helping me appreciate it, anew.

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  11. Ek kan jou verstaan, ja. Dankie vir die besoek aan my blog, dat waardeer ek. Oor die inhoud van jou blog is ek heel verbaas en bly. Dit is so herkenbaar.

    In my hart is baie gou boosheid. 's-Ochtends is ek geen gesellig mens, moet eers koffie en eet. Ek veg teen my humeur. Maar in Christus is krag om die bewegings van die ou mens dood te maak nè? Ek hoop dat jy dit kan lees anders herhaal ek dit in die engels. Ek is bly dat ek jou blog gevind het.

    In Christus: jouw zuster.

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  12. Arg! This one (BITTERNESS) bite me last night. Laid there trying to let it go. While my mind swirled with all the reasons and excuses. but ultimately it is Lord I let it go and I ask you to help me to meet the needs of the other person instead of being focused on my own desires. Sometimes I can just be self-centered..God help me!
    Great post!! I so needed it!

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  13. It's so nice and refreshing when people can be real with themselves. I believe we all have some type of bitterness in us. And when we can admit it the Lord begins to work on our hearts. I know I just recently faced this same thing and I had to admit to my spouse that I was bitter about an issue and that started the healing process, now that I was able to open up and admit it we began praying for me, I have to say, before I even confessed to it I did everything within me to not mention it but you and I know that when the Lord deals with our hearts we will confess it one way or another. Be strong and know that this is your healing and God will continue to work on you and the other person as well. This pleases the Lord when we His children being to examine ourselves, that's what the word says, Let each man examine his own heart. Praise GOD..I am so excited right now..God is good

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  14. Hi Rachel - that's a difficult one. I know my attitude towards someone who hurt me a lot changed slowly but surely when I began praying for them. You kind of move from bitterness to feeling sorry for them. Thanks for the openness.

    Hi Eileen - I think this for Christians is a big thing, if you harbour it God won't let it rest til you deal with it. Great point.

    Hi Brandee - your mom obviously achieved what she set out to. I can just imagine two little ones reciting that with much disgust. Makes me smile

    Hi Jedidja - Ek verstaan 90%. Dit is so lekker. My afrikaans kry nuwe lewe! Baie dankie vir die mooi woorde

    Hi Starla - glad this post touched your heart. God knows us so well, why else would this stuff be in His word. Thanks for visiting. Will be visiting back soon.

    Hi Desiray - thanks for your openness. Someone reading this will relate and feel encouraged.

    God bless ladies. Thank you very much for all the comments. They are truly appreciated.
    Tracy

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  15. Great post Tracy, and funny in a way, because we can all recognize something of ourselves in it. Cool blog!

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  16. What a great test of bitterness Tracy...when we respond continually to the same person w/ anger or hard feelings. I can think of one particular person I struggle with this, and am realizing, at least for me, it is not just forgiving them once...but every time these negative feelings rise to forgive. What is it? 70 x 7. Impossible to do on my own. Only by His grace.
    Many Blessings,
    ~ Jen

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  17. Tx for this. I so often think I have forgiven, but then find myself mulling over the passed, replaying it in my mind only to stir up resentment and bitterness. It is such a process that only God can help us with. I know I can't do it alone. Thanks for the words of encouragement!

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  18. Hi Marja - You are so right, we can all recognise something of ourselves here. Thanks for the comment and follow. I've bounced back to yours.

    Hi Jen - yes it is. I asked God why and He showed me this. Not nice to think we have these roots in our hearts. I am grateful God shows us how to deal with it.

    Hi Dawn - I agree with you, it is a process. One in which when we look back a year from now we will hopefully be further along than before.

    Thank you all for your comments. I love reading them all
    Tracy

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  19. Thank you for this. It is so easy to let the root of bitterness take over in our hearts. That then transfers to our actions and words. It is one of my biggest problems so this was a good reminder. And, thank you for linking up.

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  20. What you have written is so true. With my own bitterness, I remember particularly with one person, I had prayed and prayed that God would remove the bitterness. One day, I looked up, and it was gone. Only through His grace!

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  21. Oh yes; bitterness is a challenge whether it is our hurt feelings, health issues, financial problems or whatever! Our day to day ability to cope with any undesirable issues only comes from Him! :) He is our shoulder to lean on.... :)

    PS...absolutely loved your daughters comment regarding uniqueness!! :)

    Denise

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  22. Oh, this hits close to home. Sometimes it is so hard to let go, but as you said with Christ it is possible.

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  23. Good for you for recognizing bitterness...too often I think people just point the finger at someone else, and wonder why they aren't changing.

    Not me, of course (ha!).

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  24. Hi Shanda - It seems we all have this problem to some degree. Will link up again next week

    Hi Jen - that is so awesome. Its good to know that continued prayer uproots it and its gone one day.

    Hi Denise - its so true what you say, bitterness gets in everywhere, we have to be so aware. Only with God can we overcome

    Hi Joan - its so true that its hard to let go and let God. But with His help we can

    Hi Amy - this is so true. Taking responsibility for how we feel, owning it and dealing with it instead of pointing the finger.

    Thank ladies all for your comments. They encourage me and I look forward to them greatly.
    God bless
    Tracy

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  25. Great post, Tracy! Amen! Love the verses, comments, and photos. Wonderful truth to help walk in freedom!

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  26. Hi Lisa - thank you. I appreciate your comments always
    Tracy

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  27. This can be hard. Sometimes I find myself kicking at others for things that have nothing to do with them. I ask myself where the bitterness comes from and usually it is something I am trying to control, instead of giving it up to the One in charge. You're in good company working on this.

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  28. Thanks for linking up with "Inspire me" ... love your words of encouragement. How true is that last statement of yours!! ... very powerful :)

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  29. Love this, Tracy. I *might* be bitter at times.....

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  30. Hi Kelly - I know what you mean. Its important to acknowledge it and deal with it because for some reason, bitterness is like a weed that grows without much help!! praying for you Kelly, an awesome blessed new year!
    God bless
    Tracy

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