Almost 4 years ago now we had a major family fall out. It is still that way and there is much hurt. This one family member lied so much about us and so convincingly that it tore the wider family apart! Through it all we have tried and continue to try do things God's way. We have most definitely failed along the way but slowly but surely, the truth is seeing the light of day. Our goal was that things would unfold God's way and in His time (however difficult that has been) and that we wouldn't seek 'revenge'. We would wait on God.
During this whole saga I asked myself, "Are we reaping? What did we do to deserve this?" It was during this time of thinking we had somehow brought this on ourselves that I read a comment by Joyce Meyer. She said when something goes wrong, ask yourself the question, "Am I reaping, or are they sowing?"
Rom 8 v 28: And we know that God causes everything to work together for the good of those who love God and are called according to His purpose for them.
I know that I must check my heart and check my motives and sort our any wrong in this situation caused by me! But I rest in the knowledge that this is not us reaping. God judges us by the intent or our hearts and mistakes and all, our intentions for this family member were good and WE WILL REAP THAT in God's timing. But his intentions for all he has done and is still doing is to destroy us. He will reap that.
My encouragement for you today is if you are going through something uncomfortable or painful, at the hands of someone else, ask yourself, "Am I reaping, or are they sowing?"