Wednesday, 15 June 2016

Marriage is so last Century!

Today one often hears that marriage is so "last Century", that its old fashioned and not for this day and age.  Well, I beg to differ!  When I go to the various "Marriage" pages on facebook, you see how well they are supported and followed and I see this to be true of Christian pages as well as secular pages.

Marriage is still very popular and a good, true, long-lasting marriage is certainly something a lot of people, men and women, long for!  I think the problem is not the lack of desire to be married, I think its once married, the desire to push through, under many stresses, be in it for the long haul, is what is lacking.  I think people get married hoping it will last forever, but forget that in order for it to last forever, you have to work at it, work through it, and figure it out as you go along.

I think people get married today thinking, "well, if it doesn't work, we will just quit and go our separate ways!"

Marriage IS tough!  Not only because of the joining of two completely different people, personalities, outlooks and upbringings, but also because of all the outside stresses of our world!  Much stability in the world comes from family, so the devil is driven to destroy marriages every where!  And, sadly, he has much success in these areas.

I think if two people, no matter how different, agree to find a way, agree to not give up, no matter what, that marriage will succeed.  But if one wants out... there is pretty much not much you can do about it, other than pray!

This weekend we watched the movie "The War room" and I found it to be very encouraging in how to tackle relationships that come under strain from every angle, inside and outside of a marriage.  Our best weapon as Christians is to pray for our spouses, to lift them up before the Lord, to ask Him to help us be the wife He wants us to be to our husbands.  To Help us change bad attitudes and to leave the work necessary in our husbands to God!  Only He can change what needs to be changed.  Yes, it may start with us, but truly, when you lift your marriage up before the Lord, He works in ways you would never imagine.

I know that many marriages don't make it and that is sad.  But if you are still married and its getting tough, turn to the Lord for the saving of it, because in my experience, the more I tried to "fix" things, the more I messed it up.  But when I went to the Lord, and asked Him to help me, He changed me, and He changed the heart of my husband!

Here are some excellent practical resources I have found:

Ashley and Dave Willis's website is Patheos Sixseeds and you can find them on facebook HERE.

Happy Wives Club's website: Happy Wives Club and you will find them HERE on facebook.

Messy Marriage's website: Messy Marriage and you can find them HERE on facebook.

These resources are great encouragement for those struggling in marriage!  Also a great resource for those considering marriage!  There are many more resources out there but these are the ones I like at the moment.  I encourage you to push through, the rewards are great and God is a great rewarder of those who seek to do His will.

Gal 6 v 9:  And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
2 Chron 15 v 7: But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded.

God bless

Tuesday, 7 June 2016

Expect the Unexpected!

So, a few weeks back I was in my usual "Why is God not coming through for us?" mode when my husband came home and started telling me about a conversation he had.  And part of that conversation was to "expect the unexpected"!  Well, imagine my thoughts in that moment!  Yeah right!  I felt badly about my thinking and it took me a little while of Word-searching (God's word) to start getting more perspective in my heart and so too in my emotions.

Those pesky emotions!!!!

Fast-forward to a week later where my emotions are all behaving as they should and I am speaking right things in my mind and heart....

I wake up, and before I get up, I determine to pray!  You know, ask the Lord for that which we desperately need, and so I start out.... "Dear Lord Jesus...."  And I paused.  I decided instead of asking the Lord for the things we desperately needed in that moment, I would praise Him, I would worship Him.... and so I did....!

Then I got up!  Traipsed off to the kitchen to feed the ever hungry hounds and before I had set about this task I got a text!  Of course, in need, I assumed it would be bad news, but NO.... It was awesome news.  Our needs had been met!  By an unlikely source!  By an unexpected never to be expected source!   I was stumped!  I yelled for my still snoozing hubby and informed him of the text!  His words.... Yes, expect the unexpected!

Only God right?!  Only He could chuck in the unexpected like that!  I am humbled and grateful!

My encouragement to you is twofold:
  1. When tempted to beg the Lord for your needs (and I am not saying, don't ask, His word says DO ask), praise Him rather.  God wants a sacrifice of praise.  And every single time, He changes circumstances!
  2. Secondly, expect the unexpected!  Don't expect the worst, despite our pesky emotions trying to get us to do just that!  And remind yourself of all the times the Lord has ALREADY come through for you.

God bless

Wednesday, 1 June 2016

Tend that Tree!

In the last few days, in a heap of emotional turmoil, I came to the conclusion that I need to find contentment in the state of my various relationships.  Now, I am not speaking about my hubby.  We believe that marriage is something that constantly needs upkeep and maintenance :)  I am speaking about other close relationships I have, or have had.

Due to a very hurtful and ugly season in our extended family, there are still broken relationships and I know that there is nothing I can do about this until the Lord changes things.  Without going into any detail, its not what I want, broken relationship, but unity is not what they want..... and that rankles, just a little, a lot!

Then there is the relationship with my daughters.  They are my heart!  But they are starting their own lives and there is distance.  Now, I am not saying this is deliberate or intentional.  But I think I am over-sensitive about the distance because I can't say I was ever buddy buddy with my Mom, and I wanted more with my daughters.  I'm over-sensitive to the issue because of the family saga!  I see other moms and daughters and their closeness and I long for that.

I think it is the season they are in, partly.  Maybe our personalities too.  But they know I love them, and I know they love me.... but..... I long for more....

So, in defeat I decided to accept that how things are, is how its going to be.  I decided to be content with the relationships as they are,

Then God.....

Then God showed me this scripture!  I was not looking for it, but it jumped up out of the page, grabbed my face on either side!  Focused my eyes on Him.... and my hope was restored.

That scripture is this:

Prov 27 v 18:  Whoever tends the fig tree shall eat of its fruit;  so he who patiently and faithfully guards and heeds his master shall be honoured.

Did you see that?  Whoever tends the fig tree shall eat of its fruit!  I was overwhelmed!  To me, I believe the Lord is saying to continue investing in my relationships.  My family ones, my old friends, my new friends, and I WILL eat of the fruit of that investment!

My hope is restored.  And I messaged my own Mom and let her know I love her!  I don't do that enough.

My encouragement to you today is not to give up sowing into your precious relationships.  I don't mean the ones that you perhaps should not be in (bad friendships, abusive relationships, etc).  I mean those with your families, your nearest and dearest!

God bless

Wednesday, 25 May 2016

Prayer, a Powerful Tool!

Firstly, I want to thank each one of you who left comments and emailed me over the years to let me know that you were praying for my family and I.  God placed it on your hearts to pray and I believe every prayer went straight to the ears of the Father.  THANK YOU!

Secondly, I want to return the favour.  I was discussing with a friend recently that to say "I will pray for you" and then not do it was a bad thing.  Its like breaking a promise.  If my word is my word and I say I will pray for you, then I must.  I am the type of person that if I don't want to do something, I won't offer.  So having said that, I have been mulling over the blessing of prayer and how I can add to it.

So this is my plan:  If you want prayer I'd like for you to leave me a comment,
  • HERE, at My Daily Walk in His Grace,
  • HERE, at my Prayer Room Page
  • on "My Daily Walk in His Grace" Facebook page which you can find HERE, or 
  • leave me a message on twitter which you can find HERE.
You don't have to explain what you want prayer for unless you want to.  You can leave one word or a statement, like "relationships" or "complications at work".  I will note and diarise these comments and I commit to pray for you daily, for one week.  Now that may not sound very long or very much, but it will be one week of someone, somewhere, praying for you, seeking God's will in your life with you.

I have opened a Prayer page called "My Prayer Room" HERE and it will be where we can meet for prayer.

Plan of Action:
  1. Read this post
  2. Take action and add your request HERE(on the blog), or HERE(Facebook), or HERE (Twitter) or HERE(prayer room)
  3. I will pray for you, daily, for a week
  4. Send a praise report once you have one, because God DOES answer prayer
  5. Join in and pray for others too.  It is an awesome and humbling blessing to lift others up in Christ
James 5:16 - Confess [your] faults one to another, and pray one for another, that ye may be healed. The effectual fervent prayer of a righteous man availeth much.

Ephesians 6:18 - Praying always with all prayer and supplication in the Spirit, and watching thereunto with all perseverance and supplication for all saints;

1 Timothy 2:1 - I exhort therefore, that, first of all, supplications, prayers, intercessions, [and] giving of thanks, be made for all men.

God bless

Wednesday, 18 May 2016

5th Year Bloggerversary!

I cannot believe I have been blogging for just over 5 years.  I missed the date but knew I had reached it!  For me, blogging is cathartic and healing and encouraging and, well, .... I just love it!

Yes, I have moments when I don't have anything to say write, and sometimes there is lots to write but I don't know how to get it down on paper so to speak.  Also, sometimes, its just too personal right?!

I want to use this opportunity to thank all my blogger friends for the encouragement you offer through the hardships and victories in your own lives and also for being real!  You have helped me find my way many times over the last 5 years.  I hope I too encourage you in return!

So, happy bloggerversary to me!  Woot Woot!  My heart is full!

Ps 149 v 1:  Praise the Lord!  Sing to the Lord a new song, and praise Him in the congregation of His godly ones (believers).

God bless


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