Marriage is still very popular and a good, true, long-lasting marriage is certainly something a lot of people, men and women, long for! I think the problem is not the lack of desire to be married, I think its once married, the desire to push through, under many stresses, be in it for the long haul, is what is lacking. I think people get married hoping it will last forever, but forget that in order for it to last forever, you have to work at it, work through it, and figure it out as you go along.
I think people get married today thinking, "well, if it doesn't work, we will just quit and go our separate ways!"
Marriage IS tough! Not only because of the joining of two completely different people, personalities, outlooks and upbringings, but also because of all the outside stresses of our world! Much stability in the world comes from family, so the devil is driven to destroy marriages every where! And, sadly, he has much success in these areas.
I think if two people, no matter how different, agree to find a way, agree to not give up, no matter what, that marriage will succeed. But if one wants out... there is pretty much not much you can do about it, other than pray!
This weekend we watched the movie "The War room" and I found it to be very encouraging in how to tackle relationships that come under strain from every angle, inside and outside of a marriage. Our best weapon as Christians is to pray for our spouses, to lift them up before the Lord, to ask Him to help us be the wife He wants us to be to our husbands. To Help us change bad attitudes and to leave the work necessary in our husbands to God! Only He can change what needs to be changed. Yes, it may start with us, but truly, when you lift your marriage up before the Lord, He works in ways you would never imagine.
I know that many marriages don't make it and that is sad. But if you are still married and its getting tough, turn to the Lord for the saving of it, because in my experience, the more I tried to "fix" things, the more I messed it up. But when I went to the Lord, and asked Him to help me, He changed me, and He changed the heart of my husband!
Here are some excellent practical resources I have found:
Ashley and Dave Willis's website is Patheos Sixseeds and you can find them on facebook HERE.
Happy Wives Club's website: Happy Wives Club and you will find them HERE on facebook.
Messy Marriage's website: Messy Marriage and you can find them HERE on facebook.
These resources are great encouragement for those struggling in marriage! Also a great resource for those considering marriage! There are many more resources out there but these are the ones I like at the moment. I encourage you to push through, the rewards are great and God is a great rewarder of those who seek to do His will.
Gal 6 v 9: And let us not grow weary of doing good, for in due season we will reap, if we do not give up.
2 Chron 15 v 7: But you, take courage! Do not let your hands be weak, for your work shall be rewarded.